Here is an exercise in stringing together readymade Quotes found on Google Images, with my own personal story intertwined. I hope that those who read this can take away some valuable lessons about Life, particularly with regards to relationships.
I find expressing myself this way very cathartic. Exorcising my inner demons, or perhaps trying to make sense of all that’s happened to me.
And even worse is to Continue to lie, cheat and screw with people’s feelings and emotions, after you’ve been caught. Once may be an accident, twice perhaps a coincidence, but to continue doing so is a sign of purpose and intent. Definitely not a mistake, despite what the cheater may claim.
Perhaps you feel the need to cheat because you found someone who has an Ego problem like yourself. And you both feed each other’s Egos and make each other feel extra special? And then, after “It’s over”, why do you still think you can still be friends with Her? And what makes you believe that your spouse is OK with That? You don’t get to be friends, I’m afraid.
Some might argue that online affairs are not “real” affairs. I call BS on that; an emotional affair, where one betrays their partner/spouse by phone, texting, sexting, email, Skype, Line, even LinkedIn, Soundcloud and various other social media sites, is still an affair. If your mind has strayed past your marital vows and you are exchanging intimate thoughts online with someone outside your marriage, that is being unfaithful. Physical contact does not have to occur before it becomes an affair.
So, if your partner or spouse starts arguing that online affairs “do not count”,
beat them over the head with a frying pan ask them if all their romantic emails, phone calls and texts to You “don’t count” either.
Like the story of the boy that cried wolf, once you find out that your loved one has lied to you, you can never be sure about anything else they say. They may well be telling the truth about some things, but how can you be sure? Even when they profess to love only you, could that be a lie too?
If a relationship is based on trust and love, there would never be a need to lie. It’s therefore very hurtful to find out that you weren’t respected enough to deserve the truth.
If you cared at all, you would not have even thought about cheating. Flirting with someone else while in a committed relationship is cheating. No excuses. “It only happened once” doesn’t wash, either.
Sometimes it’s boredom that starts an affair. Sometimes it’s convenience – the spouse may be asleep and the cheater is online, and starts chatting to someone else. As they get more comfortable with each other, they start playing out their sexual fantasies, trying out new virtual experiences, even exchanging intimate selfies. The cheaters may even go so far as to leave their respective partners, or at the very least plan to do so.
The cheater, when first confronted, will deny that he/she has cheated. Their excuses will run the gamut from “I didn’t start it”, “I can’t talk to you, but She’s a really good listener”, “It’s Your fault, you’re so cold”, “I’m afraid of you”, “You’re crazy, there’s nothing going on between us”, “We’re just friends”, “Have you been spying on me?”, “I don’t know what you’re talking about”, “You’re crazy”, “It’s just harmless flirting”, “You’re making a mountain out of a molehill”, to “It’s You who’s cheating on me”. Deny, deny, deny. Anything but the admission of guilt.
I keep saying this to my husband. But I don’t think he’s even listening. Never did, probably never will.
If you cheat, the consequences will always catch up with you. If he can cheat on his wife, and you are the Other Woman, rest assured that he will cheat on You too. Your time will come, alright. What makes you think you’re special? What have you got that will make him stop cheating?
Unfortunately, some men don’t think with the head on their shoulders. So this may not even come into the equation.
Listen up, guys! If a woman asks you a question, chances are she already knows the real answer. She’s just trying to catch you out. Why do you keep falling for this trick? Just always be honest and tell the truth, that way you’ll never have to worry about being caught out.
Yup. I can’t believe how men don’t learn this lesson? Why do they have to fabricate a tangled web of lies, when they know they’ll only end up caught in that self-same web, like flies? Seriously, why??
Not sure if my own personal circumstances can be categorised so easily. How about “One of us is still in denial, the other one is fed up of being continuously lied to”? Where does that road lead?
Maybe it’s a road I have to walk alone. It is what it is. Come what may…
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