One of Life’s most important Lessons is to learn when to give up gracefully and surrender. This is by no means being defeatist. Rather, it’s learning to let go of what no longer serves you, or what has become toxic to you, or what is simply holding you back. And only when you have allowed yourself to do that, will your Life be open again to new opportunities. No one but you yourself is blocking your Path, so you have to first acknowledge that fact, and then learn to get out of your own way.
Relationships are hard work. Each one of us is an individual, and whatever Law or Religion decreed that when 2 people get together to form a union, they would live happily ever after, is woefully misinformed. Cruel, in fact, to mislead many a young couple to skip down the rose-petal strewn aisle, believing that their path ahead is just as fragrant as the crushed flowers beneath their feet. The reality lies in the keyword “crushed”. Because, from thereon, when making decisions together as a couple, compromises are to be expected and made, and often it’s the will of the more dominant party that wins. While the other party may not mind at that time, there will come a time when they Will object and try to assert their own independent thought, which, if met head on by the dominant party’s ego, can only lead to things ending badly.
For any relationship to work, communication has to be two-way, and both parties have to work together to reach a conclusion that is acceptable to both. Things start to fall apart when communication is one-sided, or when one party lies to the other, or when one or even both parties has given up and abandoned the relationship.
The last scenario is actually the easiest to deal with, because there is no argument about it. By walking away from each other, the chessboard is vacated and the game ends with no winner, only losers.
Trouble brews when one party is trying to repair the relationship, but the other is apathetic, lazy or doesn’t feel there is anything wrong. Or, if said party knows full well what the problem is, but insists on pinning the blame on the other party. Playing the blame game is no fun.
While surfing Google Images for image quotes about relationships, I came across these, which I feel sum things up neatly: