Very recently, I’ve had occasion to look in depth at the differences between Giving Up, Letting Go and Knowing When You’ve Had Enough.
At first glance, they all appear similar, interchangeable even.
But they could not be more different.
Giving up is a failing on your part to start, try or continue doing something, where you know there is even the slimmest chance of success. If someone is pulled unconscious from the sea, you know there is a chance they could be revived, so you perform CPR immediately. You do your darndest to bring that person back from the brink. You don’t Give Up and sit there crying, you keep giving CPR until either the person revives, or the paramedics arrive and take over, or it becomes obvious that the person has died.
Letting Go, then, is when you’ve done your best, tried your hardest, and still the Universe said “Sorry, but No”. You made the effort, nevertheless. The outcome just wasn’t what you expected. It was not your failing, or from lack of trying. Sometimes, the people and situations that present themselves in our lives, are just not meant for us. You can try and try, but if it’s not meant to be, you need to step aside so they can go on towards wherever they were meant to go in the first place. Sometimes, what we think are Destinations are merely Pit Stops. (I’ve personally misinterpreted HELL as a welcome sign saying HELLO. True story, that). Sometimes, we fall for the person in front of us, when in reality they were merely in the way of The One. So, in learning to Let Go, we step out of our own way so the Universe can work Her magic.
Knowing When You’ve Had Enough is when you’ve been a willing sacrificial lamb or punching bag to someone else, or in a certain situation or circumstance. You’ve put up with the other person’s behaviour and actions, no matter how detrimental they are towards yourself, because you love or care about them. Or simply because it was the path of least resistance, the passive way, the peaceful non-confrontational way. Knowing When You’ve Had Enough kicks in when you’ve been stretched way past breaking point, and you need to get your Personal Power back, to assert yourself, to say “Enough! No more!” And then you need to move on from there, and put it all behind you.
The trickiest part is deciding which of the three best describe your situation right now. Sometimes, we decide to stay in a particular situation due to fear of change, intimidation, or abuse. Other times, it’s to keep the peace, or because it’s the best option for that moment. It could also be from a misplaced sense of duty, obligation, social standing, cultural tradition, reputation.
Whatever the case may be, when the call comes, we must be willing to take the necessary action to move forward. This calls for courage and inner strength. You are about to do something outside your comfort zone. You are about to change your life’s path. You are about to make a real difference in your life.
Be brave. Always.