There are true friends and there are false friends. True friends accept you for who you are, no questions asked. False friends are two-faced; nice enough to your face, and then behind your back they’re busy stabbing you. True friends can go for years without talking to each other, yet when they eventually meet it’s like they were never apart, the years simply melt away. False friends say they’re there for you, yet are the first to turn away or go silent just when you really need them.
I know some people who boast that they have over 5000 friends on Facebook. Well, I’m sorry, but up to 95% of these friends would just be those that were added by “stealing” from other people’s friends list. “Oh, hey, look, we’ve got ONE mutual friend. We really MUST become friends, it’ll be so much fun!” These kind of “friends” are merely acquaintances, not real friends. And once added, they’re promptly forgotten. They were added for the simple reason of increasing someone’s social circle so that whatever that person says or does gets spread further and reaches a wider audience. It keeps the Ego happy to think it’s getting all that attention. Instant Superstar Fandom!
Am I right, or am I right? 😉
Growing up, my family moved very frequently with my father’s government job postings. I learnt at a very young age to make friends quickly, and not get too attached to them, because every 2-3 years we’d uproot ourselves and move away. Today, I can count my oldest friends on the fingers of one hand. I go for Quality, not Quantity 😄. But these are the true friends who never judged me, never expected anything from me, never indulged in backstabbing or taking sides, or pretended to be my friend. I may or may not have several other “true” friends on Social Media…only time will tell if they’re true or not.
Friends come and go. People enter your life for a reason, and once that lesson has been learnt, they leave. It happens, get used to it. The trick is to not get too attached to people. That way, when the split occurs, as it invariably does, it won’t be so difficult to get over it. Yes, it sounds harsh, and yes, it does hurt at first, but take it from a veteran of 22 moves in 45 years, and from someone who’s lived in 6 different countries and continents.
And yet, just when you think you’ve got it all sussed out, sometimes those friends from long ago, the ones you believed lost to time and space, the ones you may have lost touch with, or fallen out with, quibbled with, neglected…sometimes Life surprises you bymaking them show up again in your life. I don’t believe in accidents. These things happen for a reason. Perhaps another lesson to be learnt.
I found some quotes about real and false friends, on Google Images. All credit of course goes to the creators of those images, and copyright remains with each image.